The Energy Exchange: Who Do You Want in Your Sacred Space?
In 2012, after I left the second Kevin and began living alone again, I discovered the profound beauty of solitude. Each morning, I would wake up and say to myself, “I love waking up in my own energy.” The clarity I experienced was transformative—a gift that only solitude could offer.
Living with my mom for the past seven years, while we slept in separate beds, meant we still shared the energy of our home. Even the act of cohabitating subtly intertwined our emotions, thoughts, and energies. It wasn’t negative—our time together was sacred in its own way—but it was shared energy nonetheless.
Now, after six months of living alone again, I’ve come to cherish the sacredness of being fully in my own energy. Well, I should clarify—almost fully. I do share my bed with my dog, Lucy, my most precious, loving little angel. Her energy adds immense value to my life, and I affectionately call her my “little dose of oxytocin.” Unlike the energy I’ve absorbed from humans, Lucy’s presence feels pure and restorative, a constant source of comfort and joy.
When we share our space with someone else—especially our most intimate spaces like a bed—we inevitably absorb their energy, including their thoughts, emotions, and even their stress. It’s as if their presence weaves itself into our own, subtly altering the fabric of our emotional and mental state.
This realization has led me to frequently ask myself: Do I want to share my energy with someone? Do I want someone else to share their energy with me? These are not questions I take lightly. For now, aside from Lucy, the energy in my bed is mine alone. I wake up refreshed, energized, contemplative, and restored.
But it makes me wonder: What happens to our energy when we sleep in the same bed with someone?
The Energy Dynamics of Sharing a Bed
As you know, I love to travel. After moving in with my mom, whenever I traveled overseas, I would always instruct her and my brother, “Please do not let anyone sleep in my bed.” I didn’t want someone else’s energy lingering in my sacred space. My bed was, and still is, my sanctuary, a place I return to for the purity of my own energy.
Sharing a bed with someone involves more than physical proximity. Sleep is a time when we are at our most vulnerable and open, making the exchange of energy particularly profound.
Here’s how it works:
• Physical Energy Exchange:
Human bodies emit electromagnetic fields, and when we are in close proximity—especially during sleep—these fields interact. This can create a sense of comfort and connection, but it can also amplify tension or restlessness if the energies are misaligned.
• Emotional Energy Absorption:
Emotions don’t switch off during sleep. If your partner carries unresolved stress, sadness, or anxiety, their energy can subtly influence yours. You might wake up feeling uneasy or drained without fully understanding why.
• Synchronization of Rhythms:
Sharing a bed can synchronize breathing, heart rates, and even brainwaves. This can be deeply bonding if the energy is harmonious but disruptive if there’s an imbalance.
• Restorative Energy or Disruption:
A partner who brings calm, grounding energy to the bed can amplify your sense of peace and restoration. Conversely, someone who is restless or emotionally unsettled may disrupt your ability to recharge fully.
The Sacredness of Energy
For me, waking up alone means waking up fully within my own energy—untouched, unaltered, and completely mine. It’s a space of clarity and renewal that I cherish deeply. The decision to share that energy, especially the energy of my bed, is an intimate one. It’s not just about physical presence; it’s about inviting someone into the most vulnerable part of your life, where your subconscious mind and body recharge.
Do I want to share my bed and energy with someone? Only if it feels like an exchange that enhances my life rather than depletes it. Sharing energy should feel like harmony, not compromise; alignment, not imbalance.
As I continue this journey of rediscovering my energy, I often ask myself: Who, if anyone, would I want to share this sacred space with? It’s a question that holds the key to the delicate balance between connection and self-preservation. For now, I am content to embrace the beauty and clarity of waking up fully in my own energy—with Lucy as my joyful, loving companion.
